The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

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The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Book Info

ile Size: 875 KB
Print Length: 209 pages
Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0802473156
Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (December 17, 2009)
Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
Language: English

ISBN-10: 0802473156
ISBN-13: 978-0802473158
ASIN: B0032CVAQQ
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
How do you discover your spouse’s  and your own  love language? Chapman’s short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.
Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like –hoping the feelings of affection will follow later– a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. “Love is a choice,” says Chapman. “And either partner can start the process today.” Read online The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts book now.

The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Book Reviews

How’s your relationship with your mate? Your children? Your parents? Your siblings? It may be a matter of the state of the “love tank”.
Author Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate believes everyone has a love tank, and that tank is filled by different love languages. These five languages are Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality of Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
Often, we tend to give love in the languages we are most fluent in, which usually ends up being the languages that fill up our love tank. This would be why a husband who does yard work, dishes, car maintenance, etc. (Acts of Service) is floored when his wife says “You never show me you love me. You never cuddle with me, or caress my hair, or make the first move for sex.” (Physical Touch). Or, “Why don’t you spend time with me? Why do you work so much?” (Quality Time). And, “Why don’t you buy me flowers? Why don’t you ever get me cards or balloons…just because?” (Gifts) Or “You never tell me what I mean to you. Why don’t you ever share with me what I mean to you, or what my good qualities are?” (Words of Affirmation) But, if her language is primarily Acts of Service, she’ll feel so loved and honored because her husband does so many things for her, and thus feels “full” in her love tank.
This may not sound like a big deal, but considering the divorce rate is 50% (as one relationship instance), and so many seem to be unhappy with their primary relationships, the concept of love languages may very well be a signficant factor in understanding self and others, and in relationship growth. Perhaps relationships get rocky or arrive at an impasse because individuals are speaking a different love language than what fills up the “love tank” of the object of their affection…and a result, the recipient doesn’t feel loved. It’s not that they feel empty and unfufilled because love isn’t being given, but because the language “spoken” is not something that registers to the recipient as a form of love.
Chapman further theorizes that we usually have 2 main love languages that fill up our tank. He also says that if a person has a hard time identifying their main love languages, they’ve either been on empty for so long and are out of touch with their needs, or they have been so filled up by their spouse, that all 5 languages tend to speak to them equally. Get online The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts today.